Love comes in waves of pain, glory, and triumph, but once you can truly perform an act of love - the space of hate is a choice, not an effect.
Anyone can dive into the science of hate and anger, but it does not mean acts of hate is an acceptable principle of human nature. It is by nature normal to feel hate, but the crime is the action. I’ve loved before. We say “love” is confusing, but let’s clarify how love is genuinely applied for only the strong hearted and wise emotional plight.
Despite the “wrong” actions of anyone you love, we should all fully understand the gravity of the meaning and purpose of humanity. You can choose to stay away. You can choose to feel ill at the thought of them, but the ultimate chances of knowing who you truly are, at a state of understanding love, is how you react towards the person you have loved or are loving.
If you think about it, there are levels of morality, hence there are levels of right and wrong. It’s not as black and white because of what humanity teaches us. When you love someone, you understand, even after the storm, there is a level of courtesy. Despite the circumstances, you do not make it a life goal to ultimately ruin the person you have loved. The logic behind this is simple. You once loved this person. You said, thought, felt love towards them - these actions tell you that you had positive feelings and inspiration coming from this source. They made you feel something very positive and enlightening. Now, take a look at how they treated your humanity. Did the person respect your equality and humanity? Did this person motivate you to help others and be good? Did this person help you dive into your soul not only your heart + mind? Did this person motivate you to do acts of kindness instead of aggression? Did this person stand up for you? Did this person fight for YOUR right as a human being living accordingly to society? These questions will help you understand the purpose and meaning of what the person you love did for you, despite the wrong they have done upon you.
If your answer is yes, then you should (through common sense and conscience) know that forgiveness is the answer. There is also compassion and love. People will always cause some kind of pain in you but you are in full control of how you ultimately react to their wrong actions. Once you apply wrath and hate, you are not “better.” Being better is allowing yourself to see the love that existed between you and your loved one and the love that currently exists in yourself. These people who have hurt you, do not make you do wrong things. You and only you choose how to act towards others.
Causing pain because someone hurt you has never fixed anything, that’s why love is always powerful. Love helps you remember your humanity and that is exactly what each of us should do when we are in pain.
In conclusion, you must love at the darkest moments. You must choose forgiveness to cure pain. When you hate, you did not love. When you act on hate, you’re only proving your true and genuine nature and no one in the world ever controls that - but you.
Be kind to one another.